This topic is an especially hard one to talk about because it has to do with my perfectionism because, I like to be perfect all the time. In fact I feel like I have to be perfect all the time.
I want to really highlight this today because It’s taking me a super long time to realize that my perfectionism could be standing in the way of my own success. And perhaps you’ll resonate with some of the things that I’m going to talk about so bear with me.
And I always say that self awareness is the first step. If you’re not self aware then it’s going to be hard to take action. So I think this episode will apply to a lot of you if not all of you who are listening out there.
It doesn’t seem fair but we all know someone who was so frustrated, then says screw it all, I’m going to party like a rockstar this month, eat what I want, do what I want...and they end up getting pregnant.
So is there some truth to just relax and it’ll happen?
I know so many of you love the tips and tricks but I keep noticing over and over again inside the private group that a lot of you are stuck on the mindset piece.
So this is not going to be an episode where I tell you that you can’t feel a certain way because that’s not how I do things. But what’s really interesting is that in Chinese medicine, each emotion is tied to a certain organ system. And each emotion can absolutely have an impact on the functions of each organ system, and ultimately fertility.
Today’s episode is part 2 of the essential oils for fertility series with Logan Campbell.
I already went through the intro to the series in the last episode, number 80 so I won’t go into it here. But I do want to tell you about today’s freebie, which is the recipe for the fertility blend logan was talking about.
So to get your hands on this freebie, go to adriennewei.com/81download.
Using essential oils for fertility is a great way to complement whatever you’re already doing as well as reducing stress.
I’m definitely not an essential oils expert. I love using them for baths and diffusing them to make my house smell nice. But when it comes to using oils therapeutically, I had to turn to my good friend Logan Campbell for help.
Many of you may remember Logan, she was my success story interview from way back in episode 20.
This series was split into two parts. Today you’re going to hear part 1, which is a basic intro to essential oils, ways to use essential oils, what you need to look for when buying essential oils.
I do have a freebie for you courtesy of Logan.
It’s a recipe for homemade cleaner and also hand sanitizer. I’ve used both of these recipes and I absolutely love them. They’re inexpensive to make, good for our hormones because there aren’t any harmful chemicals. And the smell is amazing.
So to get your hands on this freebie, go to adriennewei.com/80download.
I know this is always difficult to talk about with our partners- but the truth is 40% of fertility issues come from men.
That’s roughly 1 in 4 couples <<----- And can be anything from low sperm count, motility or morphology.
You may remember episode 55 when I gave an overarching, high level view of male infertility- but today we’re breaking it down into smaller takeaways such as:
-----> The basic overview of sperm production...
-----> The 6 ways to boost sperm quality…
-----> My freebie with a list of common medications and their known effects on sperm count…
It’s like ripping off a bandaid… it will sting at first, but the faster, the better. Don’t tiptoe around your partner’s possible fertility issues- only to drag it out and make it that much more painful.
To get pregnant you need an egg and a sperm. Everyone knows that. But just having an egg is not enough, you need to have a healthy egg.
By now, most of you already know egg quality is crucial for getting pregnant. Some of you listening are especially anxious because maybe you’re in your late 30s approaching 40, and the term advanced maternal age is everywhere. Or some of you maybe fairly young but you’ve been told your AMH is really low for your age so that means you don’t have as many quality eggs.
First thing we gotta do is to have a mindset shifts around egg quality.
No matter what your situation is, I want you to forget everything you’ve read or heard, and know that egg quality can absolutely be improved.
In this episode you’re going to learn exactly how to improve your egg quality in 90 days. Why 90 days? Because that’s approximately how long it takes for an egg to make its way from the ovarian reserve to become a mature egg. During this period of time, you can influence the quality of the egg.
Today’s podcast episode is all about money- or rather deciding which blood work panels and diagnostics are TRULY WORTH the financial investments that come with them.
Today’s episode kicks off a new mini-series I’m doing called, “Where Should I Spend My Money?” For today, we’ll talk about:
----> The standard tests you should ALWAYS ask for…
----> The test to get if you haven’t had your period in 3+ months…
----> When a uterine biopsy makes sense… and when it doesn’t.
----> What tests your partner should be getting...
----> And you’ll get my thoughts on the HSG test, sonograms, laparoscopies…
Listen, I know it’s overwhelming just to read that list above… and depending on your insurance or the type of test, you’re probably seeing $$$ all over the place.
But this is important- and with new advice, information and “internet experts” coming from all aspects of your life- I promise this episode will help break it down CLEARLY and CONCISELY so you spend money on the right things at the right time.
It’s hard to let things go sometimes- especially when we’re looking for answers. You’re not getting pregnant so CLEARLY it’s something you’re doing wrong, right?
Well… no, not always.
Sometimes it simply is just the timing... and has absolutely nothing to do with what flavor tea you’re drinking.
Yes, you do need to pay attention to lifestyle habits…
Yes, you do need to cut certain things from your diet…
And HECK YES, you do need to understand your cycle…
But still, there are just some things that you can officially toss in the “WHO CARES BUCKET!”
And that’s what we’re going to gab about today!
On today’s episode I’m going to:
----> Break down the top 4 things I hear people worrying about most…
----> Explain why they aren’t worth becoming a worry-wart over…
----> And there’s a little bonus “ah ha” moment about spleen energy and digestion I think you’re going to like…
Quit pulling your hair out over every little thing and join me to catch a breather.
TTC is exhausting <<<------- But when it comes to this, YOU control the level of chaos… and I think you’ll feel much better for doing so!
Angie and I met over 10 years ago when we shared a mutual working space. Basically, as a fertility acupuncturist I helped women get pregnant and then as a massage therapist- with a focus on fertility and prenatal care- Angie helped them through their pregnancies.f
She was like the PB to my Jelly <3
And now she’s here to talk with us today! She’s basically a self-care guru and today we’ll be talking about the things you can do to help increase fertility and decrease pain or discomfort throughout the pregnancy from home.
In today’s episode of the How to Get Healthy and Get Pregnant podcast you’ll hear us dishing on:
---> All things massages: how it works for fertility, why to get them while pregnant, and how to find a massage therapist who specializes in them near you.
---> Castor Oil… and how to use it most effectively.
---> And of course more #selfcare hacks so you can take care of your body before, during and after baby!
There’s nothing worse. Like literally… nothing.
Here you are doing EVERYTHING you’re supposed to be doing: eating healthy, tracking your cycle, keeping your stress as low as possible and reading- or listening- up on #AllTheThings… and yet, there it is AGAIN!
So much for that stress.
It’s almost like it’s mocking you- telling you you’re not worthy <<----- Newsflash: NOTHING could be further from the truth.
Still, it hurts. Stings. Breaks you down and sometimes makes you want to throw in the towel. Trust me, after 10+ years in this sacred space, I’ve seen and heard it all- and I promise, you’re not alone.
On today’s episode of the How to Get Healthy and Get Pregnant podcast, I’m going over the 5 steps to overcoming disappointment after a BFN:
---> Yes, it is similar to the stages of grief- and owning those emotions is essential!
---> I’m going to open up about some of my own struggles in life and how I overcame those moments of being ready to quit…
---> And I have a freebie to help you outline the emotions you go through to help you walk through to the other side quicker and more effectively than letting it continue to build up and break you down.
Will the BFN ever get easier? Unfortunately not- but that doesn’t mean we give up our dream of starting a family, right?
I know this is a hot topic- after all, the word “diet” in general is a buzzword we haven’t been able to stop talking about since the beginning of time.
Is it a magic fix? Of course not, nothing is… but when it comes to TTC what you put in your body truly can impact your chances of getting pregnant.
While I’m sure you’ve heard a thousand different tips on “best practices” and nutrition guidelines to focus on, we’re going to dive into:
—> Caloric intake that makes sense for the body when TTC (and what’s up with fasting or detoxing… YAY or NAY?)…
—> How a bad nutritional lifestyle can make your body all sorts of inflamed (spoiler alert: it’s especially bad while TTC)
—> And which types of foods you need to be munching on (and which ones you don’t!)
Oh, and newsflash ——> Your body actually needs FATS! Don’t freak out, we’ll get into all of that too!
I’ve always laughed when they said “you are what you eat” <<— I mean, I guess you could call me Mrs. French Fries and Red Wine.
So even though I highly recommend against eating actual machinery… this podcast episode will help you to learn what to put into your body (and keep out) to BECOME a baby making machine!
My guest today is Jocey Rodriguez, my right hand person. She has been on show multiple times and if you’re part of our private Facebook group, you certainly have benefited from her expertise.
A couple of weeks ago, Jocey and I were discussing cases, and we got on the topic of fertility urban legends that people believe to be true and how we wish these urban legends didn’t spread like wildfire.
And you know what I’m talking about. “Eat pineapple and drink pomegranate juice.” “Use Robitussin to thin the cervical mucus.”
Listen we totally get it, when nothing is happening the way you envisioned, you want answers and you want to know what you can do today to fix it all.
I asked Jocey to be on the show today because 1) It gets lonely sometimes flying solo and 2) I wanted a little extra help to debunk some of the popular fertility legends that are out there.
These urban legends, while none of them are harmful, and in fact they might help some people, they are not the best way to approach your fertility.
OK, so we’re going to:
If you’re not pregnant right now I still want you to listen to this episode because here is the thing, setting a solid foundation for a healthy pregnancy and also post-partum, directly impacts your abilities to get pregnant in the future.
We have a lot of mamas in the private group that are trying for a second or third child. And while they didn’t have any problems the first time, this time around seems harder. Well, that’s because the kidney energy is a bit more depleted. So while we can’t replenish the kidney energy, we can preserve it better. And how you take care of yourself during pregnancy and post- partum can affect how well you preserve that energy.
I will go over in detail:
Remember, we inherit a limited amount of Kidney energy from our parents. So, the healthier you are, the more you have to pass down to your baby and future generations.
I’m going to talk about something I love dearly, and that is acupuncture.
I talked about how specifically you should go about looking for an acupuncturist before, but there are still lots of misconceptions surround acupuncture itself.
So in this episode, I want to go into detail and:
I hope to ease your fears about acupuncture because it is such a powerful tool to help you get pregnant. I don’t want you to stop treatment or have your fears get in the way because of misconceptions, or because someone didn’t take the time to talk to you about what to expect.
We’ve talked a lot about egg quality, ovulation, timing of intercourse. But we haven’t talked much about the other super important organ in helping you get pregnant.
And that is the uterus. I mean hello, you can have the best quality egg around, but if you don’t have a uterus, pregnancy is not possible.
The uterus is such a special organ that Chinese medicine, it is named Child’s Palace.
Today I want to kick off a series of episodes about the uterus. Here is what you will learn:
So, you’ve finally made the decision to pull the trigger and do an IUI. There’s a sense of relief because everything is going to taken care of for you. You don’t have to think about it much. You don’t have to pee on a stick to test for ovulation and you don’t have to dread the baby dance.
You go get bloodwork and you’re given instructions on what to do. But you’re also reading online about the different drugs that can be used, different dosages and you’re wondering if the drugs you’re given or the dosage is going to work. And then there’s the procedure itself, doctors throw out these numbers out at you, and there’s something about “washing the sperm.” It seems so overwhelming and so confusing.
So in this episode, we’re going to talk about:
I hope to offer some clarity so that it doesn’t seem like a huge mystery. And the next time you’re in a doctor’s office, you’ll know exactly what they’re talking about.
If you already know all this info and you don’t want to listen to this episode, no worries. I’ll be back next week with my right hand person Jocey to talk about myths and truths of trying to conceive.
This week is National Infertility Awareness Week.
I know a lot of organizations are raising awareness this week about this with activities and inspirational stories, and we’re doing the same at the office. But one thing I refuse to do is to use the word infertility and call this a disease. It’s not a disease.
Just saying infertility makes me cringe because I do not like that word at all. I avoid it at all cost, like a plague.
Every woman is practically fertile, period.
But infertility has become an identity for so many women.
What you don’t know is that our identify drives the stories that we’re telling ourselves. An identity is created based on some type of experience that we encounter, and we interpret the experience and ultimately form a belief around the experience. Then we craft stories based on this belief that become our identify, and our identity fuels our stories. It’s a loop that goes round and round and round.
And it is exactly why in this loop, a lot of self sabotage happens.
In today’s episode, I interview Sarah Kaminski. You may remember her from an honor coaching call episode #61. I coached Sarah on how to recover from her most recent miscarriage. And most recently when we talked, I’m happy to report that her hormones levels have improved dramatically I’m just so excited for her because I truly feel pregnancy is just around corner for her.
But today, I specifically wanted Sarah to come on the show because Sarah is Certified health coach with a passion for plant-based diet. And today, we’re going to talk all about plant based diet for those of you who are trying to conceive and are vegetarians.
Although you’ve heard my spiel about animal protein vs. plant based protein in episode #46, I never try to force or persuade anyone to ditch their vegetarians diets because I’m respectful of the reasons why someone might choose not to eat meat, whether it’s ethical reasons or whatever.
But what I’m finding is that a lot of vegetarians, especially those who are trying to conceive do not balance their meals to optimize fertility. And since I’m not a plant-based diet expert, I’ve asked Sarah to help me out and talk about how to thrive on a plant based diet.
Don't forget to download Sarah's freebie!
#61: Honor Coaching Call: I Help Sarah With Her Pathway to Pregnancy
Remember the “Now What Series” way back when, I went through the popular conditions and what you can do if you were diagnosed with PCOS, unexplained infertility, endometriosis, High FSH. But I have talked about this one condition.
There comes a time on every woman’s fertility journey when you start to get discouraged because nothing you’re doing is working. Many of you will eventually consult a medical doctor, hopefully a Reproductive Endocrinologist. The doctor will run a standard set of bloodwork and do an HSG. HSG is what’s known as the dye test, or hydrosalpingogram. This procedure is useful to look at the uterus and tubes to see if they’re healthy and connected.
Many women discover that there are blockages in their tubes after the HSG. So on one hand, it’s a relief to know that there’s an answer as to why things are not happening. But on the other hand, it can feel like your fate is sealed...if the tubes aren’t open, how is the sperm going to get through.
Everyone’s situation is different. At the end of the day, you have to do what’s best for you. But today, I want to talk to you about:
Today, we’re finally going to talk about exercise because quite frankly, most people exercise way too much when they’re trying to get pregnant.
Now, to be fair, exercising is really important. However, a major mindset shift must happen ASAP… and that is we need to stop looking at exercise as a way to lose weight and burn calories, and start looking at exercise as a way to influence hormones.
I'm going to talk about:
And I have a great freebie for you.
I’m going to give you the base exercise template that divide popular exercises into two categories, fertility friendly and fertility unfriendly. To download it, visit adriennewei.com/64.
#20 - Logan’s story
#44 - Susie’s story
#63 - How Stress is Affecting Your Fertility
In our private group, I get this general feeling that there’s so much information out there and it’s hard to figure out who to listen to or what applies to you. But a common theme that I’m sensing is that many people are putting stress on their bodies without even realizing it.
If you remember from a previous episode, we went over the idea of the kidney energy reservoir and how genetics, lifestyle choices can seriously impact how quickly we use up the energy in the reservoir. Even though I think people get this concept that if you withdraw from a savings bank without depositing back in, you’ll end up with a deficit...I don’t think the message really hit home because Chinese medicine concepts can be a little abstract.
So today I want to approach this from a functional medicine perspective and talk about stress, the different types of stress, and how it seriously damages your HPA axis and therefore can affect your chances of getting pregnant.
In this episode, I will:
I’ve also created an assessment for you to gauges your risk for HPA axis Dysregulation, and it will quickly give you an idea of where you fall on the spectrum.
To get your hands on this assessment, you can download it at adriennewei.com/63download.
Let’s face it, in today’s modern world, information is a commodity because we can just open Google, type in our questions, and boom! We get access to hundreds and thousands of search results.
If you want a recipe, you can hop on pinterest and there are thousands of recipes to choose from.
And then also you have that friend or blogger who has the heart of gold with all good intentions. She wants to share with you what worked for her, the one supplement that made a difference, or this great cleanse she went on and that was the month she got pregnant.
And it’s hard not to look at your own situation and go, gosh I wonder if that will work for me.
You get what I’m saying right? No wonder you can get confused.
But based on my experience, I find that we tend to filter the information. We only see what we want to see, hear what we want to hear. If we come across a piece of information and for whatever reason it resonates with us, we’re going to want to be believe it.
So my main goal for this episode is to going to teach you to be your own guide, and navigate through the fertility information jungle in a really smart way. Not to completely stop googling or reading blog, but to be able to look at the information with a critical eye.
So today, I want you to meet Sarah.
Sarah is a mom to a beautiful little boy and she is trying to conceive for the second time but unfortunately suffered two miscarriages back to back.
In this episode, we talk a lot about nutrition because Sarah is a vegetarian and has been for many years. Even though animal protein is my preferred source for proteins, I never ever force anyone to stop being a vegetarian. So don’t worry, I do not try to convince Sarah to switch her eating habits. But I give Sarah a few pointers on how to adjust her diet to boost her fertility.
Sarah is super inquisitive. She asked a bunch of great questions that I think you’re going to love hearing the answers to. Some of these questions I see coming up over and over again in our private group, so it’s going to provide clarity for those of you who are confused about certain concepts.
It sounds familiar right?
You're doing everything possible to improve your health and get pregnant, but your husband or partner doesn't seem to understand or willing to pull their fair share of the weight...especially when sperm quality issues are the reasons standing between you and your growing family.
In today's episode, I interview licensed counselor Kasandra Wheeler to get her top tips on how to start these difficult conversations with our S.O. without getting into a screaming match.
Kasandra shares her tips on what to do when:
1. Your husband doesn't seem to understand the emotional impact of the BFN.
2. He has poor sperm quality but is unwilling to make the lifestyle changes.
3. He is unwilling to explore other treatment options such as IVF, IUI, or alternative therapies.
Kasandra also shares her "Worry-Period" technique for reducing overall anxiety and depression.
#58 - The One Thing I'm Scared to Tell You
In today’s episode, I’m going to talk about the blueprint to pregnancy and which areas you should focus your attention and what your blueprint to pregnancy should look like.
This episode is inspired by a trend of what I call “kitchen sink fertility.” I’m not shaming or blaming or criticizing you. I just see so many women overcomplicate things. Kitchen sink fertility is a knee jerk reaction when you first realize that you’re faced with fertility challenges. So you literally try every single trick that you read about and take every single supplement that you can hoping something will work. Sometimes things work out and sometimes they don’t. And when they don’t, you’re more frustrated because you cannot figure out why it’s not working. And then you get depressed because you feel like there’s nothing more to do.
I hear from a lot of you that you’re overwhelmed, you don’t know which way to turn, or where to start looking for answers. So today, I want to share with you a step by step process to help you come up with your own blueprint to getting pregnant.